Nearly a week has passed since the tragic end to Chambers County Sheriff Deputy Shane Detwiler’s life. Over the course of days and news coverage, emotions spanned a broad spectrum as we were all reminded of how quickly the gift of the “present” can vanish.
In the beginning details were sketchy, but before long it was apparent many lives were forever changed: one deputy fatally wounded, others witnessing the tragedy and even more officers involved in what would be an hours long stand-off with the shooter.
Being a resident of Chambers County and the City of Baytown, I couldn’t help but feel it was hitting a bit close to home. Chambers County lost an officer, and Baytown Police were dealing with the aftermath. I was saddened and angered over the senseless loss and worried for those who remained.
In the days following, we all came to know the fallen officer: Shane Detwiler –husband, father, friend, decorated soldier, and public servant. By all accounts he was a fine man. One the world is a lesser place without.
As I read between the lines of news stories my heart ached for his wife: A mother of two sons, age four, almost two, and an eight-month-old daughter –a younger version of my own family. She described Shane as chivalrous and a hands-on father who would get up with babies during the night. Blessed with a similar version in my children’s father, I can’t imagine her pain, but fully grasp what she’s lost.
When I read of Shane’s military career and the speed in which he obtained his college degree, graduating summa cum laude, it struck me how this man had talents that could have taken him anywhere. He chose the citizens of Chambers County.
On Friday, I stood with hundreds on the flag-lined curbs of Garth Road and waited for the opportunity to show Shane’s family and friends how much his service to our country and community meant. Strangers became acquainted and introductory chit-chat quickly turned to the reason for the gathering. Sadness, appreciation, pride, and, yes, anger were woven into the fabric of conversations.
Dark clouds gathered early on, but almost on cue the skies cleared and bright sunlight shined over the long procession. I wished I’d thought to count the vehicles. Those lining the road remained silent, saluting and hands over hearts for the entire line as news helicopters hovered above.
Back at home, I saw news coverage of the funeral. With an amazing amount of strength and grace, Trish Detwiler spoke and asked that we all remember Shane for his character. Given all we now know about her beloved husband, that won’t be difficult.
Reflecting on the swirl of it all, I hope the outpouring of support from the community comforts Trish and her young children as they transition to a very different life. I also hope the officers of this area who rode in the procession realize how much their communities are behind them.
Police officer, or not, none of us know for sure what we’ll walk into each day. Armed with that fact I hope to be a little better about showing my appreciation long before I take any part in another funeral procession.
My deepest condolences to Deputy Shane Detwiler’s family.
© 2009 Natalie Whatley
July 19th, 2009 at 6:11 pm
Beautifully written and very touching, Natalie.
July 20th, 2009 at 1:45 pm
Thank you, Natalie, for sharing. I was on the other side: In one of the cars as part of the procession. I will never again think of my participation as part of a community as “I’m just one person – so I won’t matter.” Each and every one of you made an genuine, lasting impact. We were all so touched by your support. Thank you.
July 20th, 2009 at 4:16 pm
Jessica: I’m so very proud to have been a part of touching those in the procession. I can speak for all around me that we hoped shouldering a little bit of the grief would bring some comfort to those closest to the family.
July 23rd, 2009 at 12:55 am
Natalie,
I would just like to thank you for writing this. It put into words so many of the things that I have wanted to say out loud, but couldn’t in the past week and a half.
I worked with Shane in the short time he was with the Sheriff’s Office, but met him while he was employed with Parks & Wildlife. He was probably the nicest person I will ever meet, and I will forever miss him.
This tragedy has ripped everyone from their core, and it’s going to take a long time to get over it – if ever. But I will forever believe that through his death, Shane saved many, many lives.
July 27th, 2009 at 4:57 pm
Thank you so much for writing this beautiful post. I’ve been friends with Shane since junior high, and am a close friend of Trish. I was also in the processional, and wanted to thank you and the rest of the community so much for lining the streets to honor him. The support was overwhelming and the compassion shown gave us great comfort. You all touched our lives, thank you.